On PPD & Mental Illness: What Would You Say?

This morning my Human Development professor asked me after class if I would like to speak to my classmates about Postpartum Depression.

Is my name A’Driane?

Did I spend all of 2010 and 2011 living with and battling PPD?

Yes. Yes it is, yes I did, and hell yes I will speak to my classmates about such an important topic.

As soon as she finished the question my ear worm immediately started playing the opening lines & notes to “Lose Yourself” by Eminem….

Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted in one moment
Would you capture it? Or just let it slip?

A chance. An opportunity. To own a part of my story. To speak openly and honestly about something that leaves most women feeling ashamed and reeling from the effects it has on their lives. A chance to educate and share the facts, not the myths, misconceptions or misleading information that perpetuates the stigma.

I’ve been given another chance to take what I know, what I’ve learned and what I’ve experienced and share it with others, and while I’m humbled and grateful for this opportunity, I don’t want to choke. I don’t want to back out of it. I don’t want my anxiety and fear to get the best of me and push the mute button on my voice. I know it’s just a class and not some big speaking event, but I still feel a huge responsibility to do it well and help people be informed.  I’m learning that when it comes to owning your story, recovery, and healing from pain, taking advantage of the opportunities to speak about what you went through is really important. I’m learning that doing so helps strip shame, pain, and what you’re battling of its power. So even though it’s small, I want to make sure I do that here.

So I’m reaching out to you all. I need your help. If you could say anything about PPD or mental illness to a group of 18-22 year olds, male and female, what would it be? What would you want them to know? What should they know that you didn’t? What do you wish someone had told you?  What has helped you get through it whether you’ve recovered or are still trying to recover?

If you would prefer to email me your response, feel free to do so: bconfessions (at) gmail (dot) com

Whether you’re battling PPD or are a survivor, please help me educate and inform. Your feedback is tremendously appreciated.

Thank you.


8 thoughts on “On PPD & Mental Illness: What Would You Say?

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  3. The #1 thing that I would tell a mixed group of that age range is that it doesn’t make the mother experiencing PPD a BAD person. She’s not a bad mom, a bad wife, a bad partner, a bad friend, a bad human being because she’s struggling. She’s human. She needs help, compassion and support.

  4. I can’t believe that the same friend I was talking to this about referred me to this piece. I am not a PDD survivor or sufferer. I am a supporter. If I was in the audience I would also want to know what to do if a friend is depressed. How should I act? What should I say? More importantly What shouldn’t I say? What is the best way to be supportive and show them I care and am there for you? Good luck on you talk. I don’t know you but I can tell your going to do awesome. You are right on sharing heals, empowers and educates! You’re going to be amazing!!! -LV

  5. I did not have ppd but I went through years of infertility and fertility treatment so maybe that helped. Maybe because I fought so hard to have them. I don’t know. My sister had a mild case of ppd and it was awful to watch. I, do, however suffer from anxiety, not as bad as I use to but I do. People should be allowed to feel what they are feeling instead of hiding it, it helps a person to move on and grow strong. Your blog is wonderful and your desire to help others understand what you and so many women are/have gone through makes you an amazingly strong woman and YOU WILL, no matter what you say, affect many people who listen to you speak. Go girl!

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